What is true love?

[charles m young]

Love is a word I never could familiarize myself with. There have been a long chain of events in my life that held me in utter disbelief of such a thing, but I do not venture to elaborate on them. My central focus of this thread is fueled by my recent discovery that love can be, in every sense of the word, real.

As a disclaimer, the way that I found love is rather bizarre, politically incorrect, and erratically unconventional. In a forum consisting of open minded individuals, I am comfortable enough to share how this word became a reality in my life.

I was not looking for love. It hit me like a freight train. I do not wish for a reprimand; I do not regret my decision. I do not wish for advice; I will not take it, and I am set in my ways. This thread is for you to share your love story, and to express what you believe love is. No drama, no arguments, and no debates. Thank you’s and I agree’s are welcome. This is a passionate outlet thread for sharing your views and perceptions on the meaning of love, and how it affects you. No negativity please!!!

[charles m young]

I have learned a lot about love in a very short amount of time. I have learned that it knows no age, it knows no distance, it knows no ethnicity, and it knows no contract. I have learned that love is limitless, and that it cannot be stopped, avoided, or missed. I have found that for some it takes a long time to find what it really is, and that it is in the place where you would never expect it, let alone even look. Love reaches out and taps you on the shoulder, then you turn around and see things like you never thought you could.

My love found me in a weird way. The love that I found had a ring on her finger for 17 miserable years, 42 years of life experience, and serious trust issues. She didn’t believe love was real, and she faithfully tolerated her life situation in misery, accepting it as her fate. She was a very caring person by nature, helped everybody except herself, and was even trying to hook me up with someone close to my age (23 years old). After talking to her for extensive periods of time, I found that she shared many of the same life experiences as me, and she sympathized and understood many of my personal issues that I have encountered. The more we talked and shared with each other, the more common ground we found.

One day she was ranting about how good of a person I was and how she felt the need to ‘hook’ me up with a good person who deserves me, when finally I just blurted out, “if you think I deserve such a good person, and you know what I need, then why don’t you just be that person?” she was shocked. She did not have words, but her eyes lit up like a 10000 candlelight power spotlight, and that’s when we both knew.

She had her doubts about my sincerity, her complex with the age difference, her years of disappointment and hopelessness telling her it wasn’t real, and a lifetime of traditions telling her that everything about it was ethically wrong. That is a lot of ammunition to blow any chance of a relationship out of the water, but all the ammunition in the world never could prevail against the one invincible constant: Love.

My love for her is stronger than iron clad mountains, deeper than unfathomed oceans, and broader than the entire spectrum of space. If she was crippled in a wheel chair, I would brush her hair and do her makeup for her everyday. I would crawl through the bowels of hell just to reach out and touch her hand, and I would slaughter a thousand men and dragons to save her. I love her in such a way that there are no words in any language of man to properly express my deeply grounded emotional fixation on her. Is my point getting across yet?

There is no denying the way we feel, and there is no way in heaven nor earth that our love could be shaken. We are ridiculously happy, and our lives feel complete. It makes me happy just to see her happy, and when she is not with me I feel miserable. Usually I cant stand to be around people for excessive periods of time, but it is unbearable to be away from her. When we are together, every moment is counted and cherished, and the only wish in our minds is that this moment would last forever. I have found real love, because she has totally changed my perceptions on life, and she is the outlet for the good that is in me. She is my all or nothing. If I am not with her, then I shall never be with anyone. She is my foundation, my life, my love, and my friend. She is my soul mate. I am only half the man I could ever be without her. She is my completion. She is my satisfaction. She is my all, and I perfect myself daily to better please her. I am far from perfect, and so is she; but we are perfect for each other. Do not judge me or her. the only thing I understand is what I feel. I am in love. Are you?

Do not ask me any personal questions about our relationship; I will not answer because it is none of your business. But feel free to share your love stories, your definitions of love, and ask any questions you may have that some one could give positive insight on. I cannot stress the positive direction of this thread enough, so please keep it positive and non confrontational. Emotions such as love are not in your power to sway or argue with another; do not ruin it for them or me. Emotions are fragile, so please stay positive!

[No0ne]

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Love, for it is the thing's that you are willing to give to another for reason's known or unknown. ( Some abuse that gift, Some accpect that gift and give there own in return for that gift)

(But for love to be true, those that give must not give falsly, but must give truthfuly)

To Give you my time.
To Give you my flesh.
To Give you my thought's.
I care about what you do with your time.

"The act of equivolant exchange"

Since I have given you my time, will you give me your's equaly?
Since I have given you my flesh, will you give me your's equaly?
Since I have given you my thought's, will you give me your's equaly?
Since I care for what you do with your time, will you care about what I do with mine?

Love is not a one way exchange, nor is true love.
So in a way, there is a limit to the love one could give to another, and a limit to how much love one could accpet or return.

To make your love even more true, sit down with your loved one and make a list of both your love's.

(but to answer the question, true love is love that is not false, therefore it is "true" "love")

"To do onto your loved one, as you would want done onto your self"